Online Dating Tips – MyLoveIsPink.com

by Smithsonian Institution

Dating has it’s own unique set of rules or code of conduct. There is the right way to do things, and there are certainly the wrong ways to do things. Knowing the difference between acceptable and unacceptable behavior can mean the difference between attracting somebody or turning someone off. Having the rules set out before you start your date will give you self confidence and self assurance. Both qualities are very attractive to the opposite sex. Knowing what to expect and how to behave will also decrease the likelihood of you making a mistake and possibly never seeing your date again.

First Rule: Don’t Be Late!

You know the saying: First Impressions are lasting Impressions? Being late spells disaster for your date, it is also the height of rudeness. If you tell your date that you will meet them at 7pm then be there at 7pm ! Turning up late can imply that you don’t feel the date is important enough for you to arrive on time. If you plan to meet your date at 7pm at the venue, and you are late – you also run the risk of them finding someone else to occupy their time whilst they wait for you.

Second Rule: Understand that you are both nervous!

There aren’t too many people who don’t experience some degree of nervousness when going out on a date with someone for the first time. Identifying this can put you both at ease. Don’t be so hard on yourself for being nervous, tell yourself that they are also feeling anxious and perhaps make a joke about it. Listen to your date when they speak rather than concentrating on your sweaty palms, and your date will soon feel more at ease in your presence. This is a contagious feeling, and before you know it you too will be more relaxed. Laugh at each others jokes, and try not to take the moment too seriously. Remind yourself that you are just as nervous as they are, and you’re both human! Cut yourself a break.

Third Rule: Keep the Conversation Flowing!

There’s nothing more awkward than a series of pregnant pauses. On your way to your date, think of some interesting things to talk about and keep the conversation alive. People love to talk about themselves. Ask questions about their schooling, work, travels. People also love to talk about their pets. This is a brilliant topic to keep the conversation coming.

Fourth Rule: Listening is an ACTION!

Showing interest in what your date is talking about is not only common courtesy, but it will also show your date that you are genuinely interested in what they are talking about and who they actually are. If you don’t understand the topic, ask questions. This will keep the conversation bubbling. Asking a question, however, and not listening to the answer shows disinterest and is not attractive to your date.

Fifth Rule: Don’t Hog the Limelight!

As mentioned above, people love to talk about themselves. Ask your date questions, share the conversation with equal input from each of you about your lives. If your date asks you a question, answer it, and then ask them a related question. Mutual sharing of information will get you a second date before talking about yourself all night long ever will.

Sixth Rule: Don’t Talk About Your Ex!

This is the most important rule. Picture yourself sitting with your date on an otherwise perfect evening when they suddenly go into great detail about their past relationship. This is an instant turn off for both sexes and will not portray you as someone who is ready to enter a new relationship. Leave your past in the past. There will be plenty of time to discuss in brief account anything that pertains to your current relationship down the track. Your first date together should NEVER include a conversation about your past relationships. If you are asked, politely say you would prefer not to talk about it.

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