May 06 2011

Dating Tips For Single Women- Still Single And Frustrated?

Category: Dating Tips — admin @ 11:09 am
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by alex monro

Tip 1.  Single women always express their emotions and thoughts better than single men. That means guys generally have a good sense of what single women want and are after- someone who’s smart, loyal and has a great sense of humor. 

 

Tip 2.  Remember ladies, if single men talked about their feelings as much as single women do, then dating would be very easy. So how do you find out what single men really want if they don’t tell you?  Simple, ask your girlfriends what he meant when he said he had a really nice time with you and if the third date is too soon to have sex. Your girl friends will only tell you what you want to hear.  You need to be realistic in what guys are really saying.  Guys want a single woman who is consistent and stable. Don’t act one way on the first date and another way on the second date. Stability is the key.

 

Tip 3.  The goal of dating tips for single women is not to change you into someone else so you can meet more men. Guys don’t want that. Men want someone who is confident. That’s right, confidence really turns them on. If you are happy with yourself and who you are, then he will be too. Men don\’t want drama queens.

 

Tip 4.  Guys will pick up and notice whatever aspects of yourself you don’t like. If you hate your body type, he will also. It goes both ways. If he doesn’t feel like he is very successful, why would you disagree?

 

Tip 5.  Remember that a boyfriend will not magically cure everything in your life. You already had a life before you have a boyfriend. A good guy will want to help make things even better. Making someone else happy makes a good relationship. Demanding what you want does not.

 

Ladies, your assignment for this week is to identify two characteristics about you that you love. Write them down. Now, make sure to let five single men know about these characteristics when you talk to them or meet them. Show yourself off!

 

Best, Janis Spindel www.janisspindelmatchmaker.com 

With over 16 years of experience as a professional matchmaker working exclusively for the nation’s most successful men, Janis Spindel has a unique insider’s perspective on contemporary dating. Her clients tell her exactly what they want in a relationship, in the process revealing the secrets to the male brain.


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Apr 26 2011

10 Easy Tips Asian Women Dating Black Men

Category: Dating Guides — admin @ 8:53 am
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by Desert Adventures Eco-Tours and Events

Ten Tips for a Successful Date

Just for the sake of argument, let’s define a successful date by one that has left you smiling and anticipating a second one. In the general scheme of things, a first date is the job interview, the second date is the training period and the third date? Well that means that you have got the job!

So, how do you make sure that you get that second date?

1. Perfect planning of the first date. There is nothing worse than going out on a first date with someone that did not put any effort at all into the evening. Know that you are taking out a vegetarian? Then do not pull up in front of the local steakhouse and expect her to be a happy camper. Find out a few things about your date and then show that you care by honoring them.

2. Pay attention to your personal hygiene. Nothing says “I simply do not care” more loudly than bad breath or body odor. If you like someone well enough to ask them out on a date, then you should like they well enough to at least shower and brush your teeth before you show up. On a related note, if you make flowers wilt and your eyes water on the drive over, then you have gone overboard with the cologne.

3. Dress for success. If you know that you are heading to dinner and a movie, then dress accordingly. Don’t show up to a nice place in a tee shirt and ratty jeans and expect to be welcomed with open arms. If your date shows up in a nice dress and heels, you will know right away that you might be in some trouble.

4. Don’t show up empty handed. A tasteful bouquet is always a nice touch, but some people think it is hopelessly old fashioned. There is a reason some things endure though; they work! A small box of candy is a good choice as well, and if it’s the good stuff, you might be forgiven any social blunder.

5. Mind your manners. No one expects you to be a social expert, but basic courtesy is always in your best interest. Hold doors open, don’t talk with your mouth full. Don’t hip check your date out on the way into the movies. And do not, I repeat, do not belch just before leaning in for a kiss!

6. Pay attention. If your date is talking about something boring, try not to let your mind wander too far away. As soon as a man looks up with that deer in the headlights look, we know that he has not been listening.
7. Make eye contact. This is not the same as paying attention, but the two do go hand in hand. I went out with a man one time that did not look up from his plate a single time during the entire meal. He even spoke to our waitress with his head bent over. I could only describe the top of the man’s head. Not a successful date.

8. Be present in the moment. Along with paying attention and making eye contact, you need to connect with your date. Ask and answer questions, let her know a little bit about yourself. Show her that you actually like being there with her.
9. Know that friendly silences are not all that bad. It is a sign of trust that two people can sit together silently and not feel awkward. Sometimes on the best dates, words are not even necessary.

10. Walk the walk. You may no believe this, but the way you walk and hold yourself can say a lot more about you than your mouth ever could. When walking, you should take your time, but not too much – like taking one step every 30 seconds – Just be smooth and have nimble movements. Keep you back straight, chest out, shoulders thrown back, and raise your head a little, showing you have an air of confidence. Just by doing these simple things can instantaneously make you feel better about yourself.

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Apr 23 2011

Online Dating And The Networked World – A Man’s Advice To Women

Category: Online Dating Advice — admin @ 5:44 am
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by NathanaelB

Copyright (c) 2011 Dirk Sayers

Not long ago, I ran across a provocative video featuring MIT Professor Sherry Turkle, a clinical psychologist. Her remarks in the video were about higher education, rather than online dating, but her observations have implications for women looking for meaningful relationships online. As a man who has been advising women in the activity of online dating (or online meeting as I prefer to call it), I wanted to share her observations, because they illustrate a point well worth remembering.

Professor Turkle’s remarks were delivered at the Harvard University Extension School at the “Centennial Panel on Higher Education in the Networked Age.” She shared many thoughtful remarks during her talk, but none more applicable to women and online dating than her observation about academics as practiced today. Said Turkle:

“…we are all doing more of our work in simulation; something that doesn’t always force us to confront the real.”

Earlier in her talk she observed that this is the first generation where simulation can be a surrogate for what is real. When you take Professor Turkle’s remarks about education and insert them into the online dating/meeting world, it’s hard not to be struck by its far-reaching implications for everyone in the online dating world. Education, Dr. Turkle notes, makes extensive use of computer-mediated learning resources. Online universities abound today…an educational framework in which virtual class rooms obviate the need for a commute to a bricks and mortar class room, while simulations stand in for hands-on, practical applications. Online dating occurs in a virtual environment in which the meetings (at least at first) are “virtual.” Depending on your comfort with closing the distance, the email “discovery” process can go on for quite a while, subtly shaping your perceptions of “him,” even before you meet. Professor Turkle’s point with regard to education is that as highly symbolic learning becomes more and more wide spread, the behaviors, conditions and standards it is meant to prepare students for become equally abstracted. As a result, the lines between the symbols and that which is symbolized become blurred.

Which brings me to a man’s online dating advice to women. In online dating, we meet in a highly symbolic environment, very much like the educational environment Dr. Turkle was describing. Our conversations is scripted at first, our photos are selected for the best possible impact, to the extent we’re able to achieve that. Subsequent email contact can be edited at leisure. But the symbolic persona you see are in his profile, or in his emails to you is no more “him” than a video simulation (even the most interactive one) of a leadership challenge is leadership; or time on a flight simulator is flying an aircraft. While both have decided value in the learning process, simulation and symbolic abstraction can only go so far in replicating reality.

We recognize this intuitively. It’s one of the reasons online dating profiles retain their reputation for “creative” self-representation. But some (perhaps many of us) nevertheless behave as though we don’t
know this. How many of you have emailed back and forth extensively with a man, not quite sure if you wanted to commit to the flesh and blood reality of a face-to-face meeting? That little whisper in the back of your mind is telling you something. It is saying, comfortable or not, you need to push through to a meeting…or move on and let him do the same. Deep down, you realize this. Consistent with the needs of safety, meet and meet soon! The “written voice” we know from email is a shadow of him; not the man and the reality will be the more reliable litmus test of long term fit.

To take another illustration. How many of you have agreed to meet someone face-to-face only to be surprised by how different he looked? Did you get suckered by photo-shop or an old picture? Maybe not!
An uploaded gif or jpg photo usually required for posting on most online dating sites loses some of the detail in order to display as accurately as possible on the site. In this case, even without an intent to deceive, the man you’re meeting falls short of your expectations. But the culprit isn’t deception, it is the limitation of the very symbolic medium you’re using to connect with him. (Just like the examples we discussed in computer-mediated training scenarios.)

Neither Professor Turkle’s observations in the seminar nor my own comments should be interpreted to mean that simulations or computer-mediated meeting have no value. Both have great
value. I have personally used both to great advantage. We simply need to keep their limitations in mind, as well as their undeniable value. This man’s advice to women about online dating is to keep their
limitations top of mind. The most practical advice I can offer women who are using online meeting as a means of finding Mr. Right is to be aware that the profiles you are reading are in fact not the man himself. Once you connect via email and find yourself “interested,” confirm quickly by talking on the phone and then close the distance to meet in person as soon as you’re comfortable doing so. You’ll get the unfiltered truth much more quickly up close and personal…and so will he. And that’s what you were doing online anyway, wasn’t it?

Want to be one that gets it right the first time? Read Dirk Sayers’ book The Woman’s No-Fear Guide to Online Dating. Dirk is a 10 year veteran of online
dating. Visit http://www.TheNoFearGuide.com to learn more about Dirk’s book and while you’re there, take advantage of some of the free resources on the site.


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Apr 18 2011

Dating Tips For Women

Category: Dating Tips — admin @ 5:10 pm
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by roolrool

Women, Hear These Dating Tips

When you first start dating somebody the quest for Mr Right can often be frustrating because men think very differently to women. This is where the understanding nature of women comes to the fore with the realization that a little patience is needed to give him time to settle down and allow the real man to come out. In general men are not dishonest but they do have a misguided view that all women seek a superman and they are foolish enough to try to create that character in the hope it will impress you.

He is often scared of you and dreads the possibility of losing you after working up so much courage to ask you out on that all important first date. This is an ideal cocktail to make a fool of himself for all of the wrong reasons.

Since time immemorial, women have been embarking on that quest towards the elusive “Mr. Right”. But how do you know if you are succeeding on the turf of dating or if you are risking your safety?

Here are tips to know if you are in danger

Listen to your heart.

If intuition tells you that you are not striking a string with a certain man, dump the guy, but be kind about it. Dating is not about jumping on every person that shows interest. Settling for something less than you want is not that good of an option either.

Trust yourself. Women have heightened intuitive senses for the reason of self protection – Trust them.

This goes with the gut feel advice. If the man seems too good to be true, chances are he really is. Don\’t be misled by sweet promises. Don’t believe all men are the same because for every rogue out there you’ll also find a saint.

Keep your feet on the ground. Don\’t be swept off your feet by the excitement of the moment. Taking things slowly will keep you safe from being hurt if the guy is not really what you expected him to be.

Never give in to peer pressure. If your roommates know about your online dating escapade and advise you to single out somebody that you don\’t really like, don\’t be swayed by them. If they want that guy, they can have him. Dating is not supposed to be the decision of the group.

Being too desperate over a relationship will spoil the fun of single dating life. Don\’t go against that nagging but “healthy” advice of your instinct that you\’re overdoing your dealings with your boyfriend or it will be your loss.

For instance, if you keep trying to patch up a romance that is obviously fading, you will be the loser in the end. Sometimes it\’s best just to cut your losses and get on with your life. If you thought of him as the future father of your babies but he just wants a fling, get out of that relationship, fast!

Always remember that men don’t take hints – if he is doing something you dislike tell him so. If he is behaving in a manner you dislike tell him so. Don’t hint to a man; you’ll just drive yourself crazy because he won’t pick up the hint and that’s for sure.

If all the while you\’ve been aiming for that long-term relationship, here are few fool-proof tips on how to spot who\’s NOT the man.

1. He\’s overly unreliable. Promises to call you but he won\’t.

2. He does not let you in his intimate circle of friends.

3. He never spouts anything about your future together

4. He should allow you to finish whatever you are saying before starting his reply.

5. He should share decisions with you. If he asks whether a restaurant he suggested you eat is OK by you that is good sign.

6.Although most of us don’t want too much eye contact when we chat we do want some. A man who consistently fails to make eye contact is either over-shy or has something to hide. Trust your instinct on this one.

7. If he tries to rush your decisions back off – you don’t want a life of being forced to make decisions when you’re not ready for it.

Keep this in mind and you\’ll be well set off for the goodies of single dating. Go get him swooning over you!

Chris Dating  has a long association with online
dating and has tested many of the services available online taking
great pride in finding the sites that are genuine and ignoring those
that offer a lesser level of service.  You can access his favorite
dating site here.


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